How to Deal with a Brother-in-Law Who Taunts His Wife Over Repaid Loans

Question: My brother-in-law (sister’s husband) lent me money for my business, which I have since repaid in full. However, he continues to taunt my sister about the money in various ways and has made her life miserable. What should I do?

Answer: You should exercise patience and continue to forgive him, no matter how much hardship you face. Explain the matter to your sister as well. Encourage her to endure the difficulties and advise her to remain patient. You will be greatly rewarded for this, many of your sins will be forgiven, and you will receive Allah’s mercy and forgiveness.

A person who reminds others of their favours after helping them is unfamiliar with the Islamic way of life. This reflects a lack of knowledge and good moral values.

Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran, “The true believers are those who do not remind others of their favours after helping them.” Another verse states that reminding others of one’s favours nullifies the reward for the good deed.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said in a Hadith that among those whom Allah dislikes is a person who reminds others of their favours after helping them.

Someone should try to explain the matter to your brother-in-law calmly. If possible, he should also seek the company and guidance of pious Islamic scholars and spiritual guides. This may help him develop Islamic knowledge, values and good character.

Above all, pray sincerely to Almighty Allah for a change in his heart. Surely, change will come, for the Prophet of Allah said that supplication is an integral part of a believer’s faith.