Is the Marriage Valid After Lying About Pregnancy to Persuade Boyfriend to Marry?

Question: I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant and persuaded him to marry me. Later, I managed to get out of the situation by telling him that I had suffered a miscarriage. Is our marriage valid? If I have committed a sin, what should I do now? Our married life is currently going well, but I feel deeply ashamed within myself. What can I do?

Answer: As Muslims, you have made a mess of your life because you have failed to acquire genuine religious faith, knowledge and values. Such things may happen in a society devoid of religion, but they are wrong in an Islamic society.

First, you engaged in an illicit relationship, creating the possibility of pregnancy. Then, undoubtedly, you resorted to lies to give legitimacy to an unlawful relationship driven by romantic desires. In other words, you blackmailed your partner. Both you and your male partner are equally guilty of this wrongdoing.

There is no limit to the sins Allah can forgive. Allah can forgive even sins of this nature, or sins a thousand times greater. You should sincerely repent, seek Allah’s forgiveness and continue performing good deeds.

However, if your marriage was solemnised after fulfilling all the requirements of Shariah, it is entirely valid and lawful. You should have no doubts about this.

It is natural to feel guilty and ashamed. However, do not allow these feelings to make your lives unbearable. Live your lives normally. Nevertheless, continue to maintain a sense of guilt, shame, regret and remorse before Allah throughout your lives. This will benefit you spiritually and religiously and, Insha’Allah, will help secure your salvation in the Hereafter.

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